Stacer Family Law Team

Q: I want to do mediation. How do I start?

A: Can you two talk and work together?

Yes;

I charge $1400 (without kids) and $1700 (with kids) for the mediation + court filing fees. We take care of filing the case, we help you with the declaration of disclosure process, and then we work on the settlement and come up with creative solutions and work through a rough draft customized to your case.

Is your wife ready for this, and are you ready for this?

Yes.

I would like to see both of you. I recommend getting it started sooner rather than later.

Q: We fell out of love; we just never focused on each other. My wife and I don’t speak to each other anymore. She was done with the marriage first, but now I am done too. What do I do if I am not certain she will come in for a mediation with me or not?

A: You could schedule a time to meet with her and say “Well I met someone who does mediations and they seem interested in saving us money. I attended their workshop on the 11th and got some questions answered. Perhaps you could check out their next workshop and see how you feel about the process.”

I am all about finessing a settlement. We don’t want to push people into court, especially people who are emotional. This will cause you to lose more money. You can start the process without her if she is not interested at first. We can also give you a script of what to say to her during the process if she doesn’t want to come in.

Q: I have been married for 49 years; stay @ home mom; husband is a retired systems analyst. Both in their seventies. Husband is physically abusive. I think he is cheating on me as well. What do I do?

A: What are your finances like?

I don’t know. I receive a little bit each month from his retirement, but he controls all the finances. I don’t know anything.

File for a restraining order and look for financial paperwork while he is out of the house w/ restraining order. A domestic violence TRO and Kick out Order. Look up financial code 1450 about 3 business day bank account freezes, and make a list of your monthly budget so you can figure out what you need to live on.

OR

You can wait for him to file for divorce; don’t confront him right now and keep a record of what he says and does.

Q: How long does child support come in?

By law, it goes until the child is 18 years old, or until they have graduated from High School. If you are concerned about college funds, google “529 college savings plan” to give you some flexibility.

Do you need help finishing the file process?

Yes.

We can finish off the case with you. We can schedule a consult where you bring in everything you have and come up with a plan. Are you working?

No.

What kind of work are you looking for? We know people who might be able to help.

Q: Can I change what I put on my paperwork? It has been sent to court. I have 50/50 custody of children but I want full custody and child support. He won’t cooperate.

Come in to see me and we will go over paperwork. Bring all documents and your paystub. I will shift things around so it can become a “True Default”.

Bring in a flash drive as well so I can give you some personal development stuff. I highly recommend reading The Slight Edge.  The gist of it states that you are the sum of thousands of micro decisions you make over time.

Is this You? Come to our Workshop. 

Do you think your mate will fight your divorce all the way?

Are you considering a divorce but you know your mate may be difficult to work with?  If you know they may fight you every step of the way through the divorce filing and settlement process, you should first learn everything you can  about what to expect from the court system,and what you can do before you file your case.

Many times one person is done with the marriage, while the other one is either clueless about what is going on, or they refuse to cooperate with you and move through the process. This may or may not make sense to you because they may have either been disengaged from the relationship for some time (and you think they want out) or they are only blame you for all of their difficulties, and they won’t let you go of you.

We have a saying that is often true for difficult cases. It says, “If you love something, let it go… but, if it doesn’t come back, then hunt it down and kill it!”  What this means for you is that just when you think the other person is not interested in being with you, or they are so mean to you, and you file for divorce in California, the other person refuses to cooperate. This means, your case will be more expensive to resolve and it will take a lot longer than normal for you to resolve your case.

If both people are ready to end the marriage, it is very simple to fill out the forms and get the process filed, settled and ended. If however, one of the people is not willing or ready to end the marriage, for whatever reason, the process will be difficult. If you fit the “difficult”criteria, you will need to learn what you can do to set up the case before you file it. You will need to learn how you can move the difficult person forward so you can get the process done without the agony and unnecessary expense of a case like this. You can start to gain knowledge by coming to our FREE bi-monthly workshops, to learn new techniques to help you set up the breakup before you actually do the breakup. You can learn how to prepare the children, set money aside to move your case along, figure out how you will financially survive (if that is an issue for you) and you will learn how to start protecting the children and yourself from unnecessary conflict.

The team at TeamWorks has the expertise to help you learn these strategies. We want you to be smart, before you leap, especially into a giant mess that may consume your mind and your heart, costing you energy, time and lots of your hard earned money. Get smart first-before you file.

Contact us to schedule an appointment at 858-675-9225 or attend our FREE TeamWorks workshops to learn the strategies to prepare for your divorce from a difficult person. We will save you time, money and heartache.